By Kirsteen Williamson-Guinn
We can all think of times that we have been really motivated to do something, but for some reason we just haven’t followed through.
Even the most successful and motivated people can be challenged with this. We all have those days where we just can’t be bothered, we may feel stuck, overwhelmed, behind or not doing as well as other people, and we may just give up on our goals completely because, what is the point?
There is usually an unrealistic expectation lurking behind those feelings. They can be followed by all the things that we ‘should’ have done, we literally ‘should’ all over ourselves!
The art of staying motivated is to be able to uncover the unrealistic expectation and replace it with a realistic expectation. Sounds easy right? It is, if you really tune in to what is going on for you during these times.
Here are some of the most common thoughts and feelings, which lead to demotivation and some of their associated unrealistic expectations:
- Perfectionism – Anything less than perfect is failure. That means this may not be the right time to do this, so maybe I should put this on hold until it is the right time? How about replacing this with a more realistic expectation, like – I am going to trade perfection for presence. I am always going to be learning
- Feeling Stuck – I am lost, I don’t know what to do, I can’t figure it out, there’s no solution, I am doomed! Replace this with – I am currently not seeing any options I like. Logically, there is a solution, anything is possible and there is always a way. With this one, a coach or friend can help you open up some more choices
- Overwhelm – I must figure out everything right now, if I don’t, I will fail. Replace this with, I can do anything if it is in small chunks. Just take one step forward
- Feeling behind – I should be able to get to everything and everyone. This one often leads to us quitting as we feel we are never going to get on top of things. Replace this with, I will reprioritise and get to the most important things, everything else can wait
Which of these resonate with you?
All we need to do to stay motivated is be able to tune in to ourselves and uncover the unrealistic expectation behind the emotion or feeling, then replace it with a more realistic, empowering and motivating one! This will help you get motivated and stay motivated.
Sometimes, we can do this on our own, other times it is helpful to have a coach to work through these things with us. If you would like to book a free Discovery Session to help you get clear on your goals and understand what is slowing you down, click the link here.
I would love to hear how you get on with this.
To your success